Huwebes, Marso 19, 2015

Relationships


Relationships


All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of fulfillment outside of ourselves. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not all innate. Failed relationships happen, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance, you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

It's the rare couple that doesn't run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you'll have a much better chance of getting past them.
Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going, says marriage and family therapist Mitch Temple, author of The Marriage Turnaround. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error.

Relationship Problem: Communication

All relationship problems stem from poor communication, according to Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families. "You can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section," she says.
Problem-solving strategies:
  • Make an actual appointment with each other, Shimberg says. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your calls.
  • If you can't "communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant where you'd be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
  • Set up some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases such as "You always ..." or "You never ...."
  • Use body language to show you're listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both working." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was, "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you," he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.

Relationship Problem: Sex

Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually. Mary Jo Fay, author of Please Dear, Not Tonight, says a lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up, Fay says. "Sex," she says, "brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy."
Problem-solving strategies:
  • Plan, plan, plan. Fay suggests making an appointment,  but not necessarily at night when everyone is tired. Maybe during the baby's Saturday afternoon nap or a "before-work quickie." Ask friends or family to take the kids every other Friday night for a sleepover. "When sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation," Fay says. Changing things up a bit can make sex more fun, too, she says. Why not have sex in the kitchen? Or by the fire? Or standing up in the hallway?
  • Learn what truly turns you and your partner on by each of you coming up with a personal "Sexy List," suggests California psychotherapist Allison Cohen. Swap the lists and use them to create more scenarios that turn you both on.
  • If your sexual relationship problems can't be resolved on your own, Fay recommends consulting a qualified sex therapist to help you both address and resolve your issues.

Relationship Problem: Money

Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from the high cost of a wedding. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) recommends that couples who have money woes take a deep breath and have a serious conversation about finances.
Problem-solving strategies:
  • Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.
  • Don't approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead, set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.
  • Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other's tendencies.
  • Don't hide income or debt. Bring financial documents, including a recent credit report, pay stubs, bank statements, insurance policies, debts, and investments to the table.
  • Don't blame.
  • Construct a joint budget that includes savings.
  • Decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.
  • Allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.
  • Decide upon short-term and long-term goals. It's OK to have individual goals, but you should have family goals, too.
  • Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed.

Relationship Problem: Struggles Over Home Chores

Most partners work outside the home and often at more than one job. So it's important to fairly divide the labor at home, says Paulette Kouffman-Sherman, author of Dating From the Inside Out.
Problem-solving strategies:
  • Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the home, Kouffman-Sherman says. "Write all the jobs down and agree on who does what." Be fair so no resentment builds.
  • Be open to other solutions, she says. If you both hate housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you.

Relationship Problem: Not Making Your Relationship a Priority

If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do." "Relationships lose their luster. So make yours a priority," says Karen Sherman, author ofMarriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last.
Problem-solving strategies:
  • Do the things you used to do when you were first dating: Show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other.
  • Plan date nights. Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life.
  • Respect one another. Say "thank you," and "I appreciate..." It lets your partner know that they matter.

Relationship Problem: Conflict

Occasional conflict is a part of life, according to New York-based psychologist Susan Silverman. But if you and your partner feel like you're starring in your own nightmare version of the movie Groundhog Day -- i.e. the same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to break free of this toxic routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the anger and take a calm look at underlying issues.
Problem-solving strategies:
You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil, helpful manner, Silverman says. Make these strategies part of who you are in this relationship.
  • Realize you are not a victim. It is your choice whether you react and how you react.
  • Be honest with yourself. When you're in the midst of an argument, are your comments geared toward resolving the conflict, or are you looking for payback? If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it's best to take a deep breath and change your strategy.
  • Change it up. If you continue to respond in the way that's brought you pain and unhappiness in the past, you can't expect a different result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference. If you usually jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished speaking, hold off for a few moments. You'll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument.
  • Give a little; get a lot. Apologize when you're wrong. Sure it's tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful happen.
"You can't control anyone else's behavior," Silverman says. "The only one in your charge is you."

Relationship Problem: Trust

Trust is a key part of a relationship. Do you see certain things that cause you not to trust your partner? Or do you have unresolved issues that prevent you from trusting others?
Problem-solving strategies:
You and your partner can develop trust in each other by following these tips, Fay says.
  • Be consistent.
  • Be on time.
  • Do what you say you will do.
  • Don't lie -- not even little white lies to your partner or to others.
  • Be fair, even in an argument.
  • Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.
  • Call when you say you will.
  • Call to say you'll be home late.
  • Carry your fair share of the workload.
  • Don't overreact when things go wrong.
  • Never say things you can't take back.
  • Don't dig up old wounds.
  • Respect your partner's boundaries.
  • Don’t be jealous.
  • Be a good listener.
Even though there are always going to be problems in a relationship, Sherman says you both can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether.  
First, be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly," she says.
Next, use humor -- learn to let things go and enjoy one another more.
Finally, be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don't think that things would be better with someone else. Unless you address problems, the same lack of skills that get in the way now will still be there and still cause problems no matter what relationship you're in.

Love



 If you Love someone and you can't control your emotions towards him/her, go tell her/him already before it's too late. It is better if you let go and tell your feelings than hiding it in your heart.



Here's some quotes that can help you to get confidence in yourself.

QUOTES about Love:


“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soulmate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.” 


“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”  


“The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” 

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” 

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.” 

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. 

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. 

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...” 


“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” 

“You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not.” 

School is Fun!



Let your children go to school everyday. He/.She can meet new friends and learn something that he/she hasn't discovered yet.


School Life: The Golden Period of A Child’s Life 


The School has a passionate belief in making learning relevant – and so runs courses in the important questions of everyday life. Whereas most colleges and universities chop up learning into abstract categories (‘agrarian history’ ‘the 18th century English novel’), The School of Life titles its courses according to things we all tend to care about: careers, relationships, politics, travels, families. An evening or weekend on one of its courses is likely to be spent reflecting on such matters as your moral responsibilities to an ex partner or how to resolve a career crisis.
The School offers communal meals, holidays and a beautiful shop with fascinating gift vouchers and other items. It also has a division offering psychotherapy for individuals, couples or families – and it does so in a completely stigma-free way. For the normally reserved British, it must be a first to have an institution that offers therapy from an ordinary high street location and moreover, treats the idea of having therapy as no more or less strange than having a haircut or pedicure, and perhaps a good deal more useful.
The School attempts to put learning and ideas back to where they should always have been – right in the middle of our lives.


“As a child we always wanted to grow up fast , but now we realize that incomplete homework and broken toys were far better than unfulfilled dreams and the world outside.” As a child grows so do his tensions and responsibilities .

Well this cannot define the difference between the school life and college life but provides us a sufficient outline.

We always wanted to grow up fast like our parents so that no one can scold us or instruct us to do anything.

In school life there are tensions of studies rather I would suggest that if we take up studies as daily routine like bathing ,eating etc then we would feel relieved of this tension. In school we have teachers to support us and teachers at school cares for us and love us like a mother and expect us to be disciplined so that we are on the right path of a a bright future. We enjoy a lot under the motherly warmth of our teachers at school.
When at school, we feel that we are bound by many rules and regulations and once we will reach college we will be a free bird, no teachers to force us to attend classes, no uniforms, etc. But no, we are under a false notion. At college we may be misguided and go astray without the supervision of teachers. There the students who care for studies have to keep themselves updated and are bound to attend classes whether they wish to or not because attendance does matter and carries marks! In college you are the best judge of good and bad. The so called freedom is a mirage because responsibility of your actions lies on you. There is no one to guide you, to lead you on. I am in college and I know the freedom out here – it is an illusion. 

However it is the school life which gives us the real freedom – the freedom to live in a cocoon of care, concern and commitment of our teachers. The best phrase to sum up school life would be ‘A Free Life’.

So enjoy your school life, enjoy your freedom!!

And in the end all I would like to say is “In the cookie of life, school and teachers are the chocolate chips that make life sweet, surprising and yummy.” I would like to thank my teachers for being the yummy choco-chips of my life. 

Biyernes, Marso 13, 2015

Socialization


           

 Let your children go outside and play with other kids than playing in the computer in his room by himself. He needs to socialize or interact with other children in order for him to grow and develop.
 
 
  "All children are born pure egoists. They perceive their needs to the exclusion of all others. Only through socialization do they learn that some forms of gratification must be deferred and others denied."
 
"Basically, my socialization as a child didn't come from any schooling; it came from being in theater and meeting people online."


"In fact, the socialization gives us the tools to fill our evolutionary roles. They are our building blocks."





"Socializing is more positive than being alone, that’s why meetings are so popular. People don’t like being alone. That would be, however, an important skill to learn..."
 
      Socialism proposes no adequate substitute for the motive of enlightened selfishness that to-day is at the basis of all human labor and effort, enterprise and new activity. This socialism will develop in all its phases until it reaches its own extremes and absurdities. Then once again a cry of denial will break from the titanic chest of the revolutionary minority and again a mortal struggle will begin, in which socialism will play the role of contemporary conservatism and will be overwhelmed in the subsequent revolution, as yet unknown to us.
 
 "The only hope of socialism resides in those who have already brought about in themselves, as far as is possible in the society of today, that union between manual and intellectual labor which characterizes the society we are aiming at."
 


 

Miyerkules, Pebrero 25, 2015

Healthy Eating

Easy Tips for Planning a Healthy Diet and Sticking to It

Improving Emotional Health

Healthy eating is not about strict dietary limitations, staying unrealistically thin, or depriving yourself of the foods you love. Rather, it’s about feeling great, having more energy, and stabilizing your mood. If you feel overwhelmed by all the conflicting nutrition and diet advice out there, you’re not alone. It seems that for every expert who tells you a certain food is good for you, you’ll find another saying exactly the opposite. But by using these simple tips, you can cut through the confusion and learn how to create a tasty, varied, and healthy diet.

Healthy eating tip 1: Set yourself up for success

To set yourself up for success, think about planning a healthy diet as a number of small, manageable steps rather than one big drastic change. If you approach the changes gradually and with commitment, you will have a healthy diet sooner than you think.

  • Simplify. Instead of being overly concerned with counting calories or measuring portion sizes, think of your diet in terms of color, variety, and freshness. This way it should be easier to make healthy choices. Focus on finding foods you love and easy recipes that incorporate a few fresh ingredients. Gradually, your diet will become healthier and more delicious.
  • Start slow and make changes to your eating habits over time. Trying to make your diet healthy overnight isn’t realistic or smart. Changing everything at once usually leads to cheating or giving up on your new eating plan. Make small steps, like adding a salad (full of different color vegetables) to your diet once a day or switching from butter to olive oil when cooking. As your small changes become habit, you can continue to add more healthy choices to your diet.
  • Focus on how you feel after eating. This will help foster healthy new habits and tastes. The more healthy food you eat, the better you’ll feel after a meal. The more junk food you eat, the more likely you are to feel uncomfortable, nauseous, or drained of energy.
  • Every change you make to improve your diet matters. You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to completely eliminate foods you enjoy to have a healthy diet. The long term goal is to feel good, have more energy, and reduce the risk of cancer and disease. Don’t let your missteps derail you—every healthy food choice you make counts.

Think of water and exercise as food groups in your diet.

Water. Water helps flush our systems of waste products and toxins, yet many people go through life dehydrated—causing tiredness, low energy, and headaches. It’s common to mistake thirst for hunger, so staying well hydrated will also help you make healthier food choices.

Exercise. Find something active that you like to do and add it to your day, just like you would add healthy greens, blueberries, or salmon. The benefits of lifelong exercise are abundant and regular exercise may even motivate you to make healthy food choices a habit.

Healthy eating tip 2: Moderation is key

Harvard Healthy Eating Plate 
 People often think of healthy eating as an all or nothing proposition, but a key foundation for any healthy diet is moderation. But what is moderation? In essence, it means eating only as much food as your body needs. You should feel satisfied at the end of a meal, but not stuffed. Moderation is also about balance. Despite what certain fad diets would have you believe, we all need a balance of carbohydrates, protein, fat, fiber, vitamins, and minerals to sustain a healthy body.
The goal of healthy eating is to develop a diet that you can maintain for life, not just a few weeks or months, or until you've hit your ideal weight. For most of us, that means eating less than we do now. More specifically, it means eating far less of the unhealthy stuff (refined sugar, saturated fat, for example) and replacing it with the healthy (such as fresh fruit and vegetables). But it doesn't mean eliminating the foods you love. Eating bacon for breakfast once a week, for example, could be considered moderation if you follow it with a healthy lunch and dinner—but not if you follow it with a box of donuts and a sausage pizza. If you eat 100 calories of chocolate one afternoon, balance it out by deducting 100 calories from your evening meal. If you're still hungry, fill up with an extra serving of fresh vegetables.

  • Try not to think of certain foods as “off-limits.” When you ban certain foods or food groups, it is natural to want those foods more, and then feel like a failure if you give in to temptation. If you are drawn towards sweet, salty, or unhealthy foods, start by reducing portion sizes and not eating them as often. If the rest of your diet is healthy, eating a burger and fries once a week probably won’t have too much of a detrimental effect on your health. Eating junk food just once a month will have even less of an impact. As you reduce your intake of unhealthy foods, you may find yourself craving them less or thinking of them as only occasional indulgences.
  • Think smaller portions. Serving sizes have ballooned recently, particularly in restaurants. When dining out, choose a starter instead of an entree, split a dish with a friend, and don't order supersized anything. At home, use smaller plates, think about serving sizes in realistic terms, and start small. If you don't feel satisfied at the end of a meal, try adding more leafy green vegetables or rounding off the meal with fresh fruit. Visual cues can help with portion sizes–your serving of meat, fish, or chicken should be the size of a deck of cards and half a cup of mashed potato, rice, or pasta is about the size of a traditional light bulb.

Healthy eating tip 3: It's not just what you eat, it's how you eat

Healthy eating is about more than the food on your plate—it is also about how you think about food. Healthy eating habits can be learned and it is important to slow down and think about food as nourishment rather than just something to gulp down in between meetings or on the way to pick up the kids.

  • Eat with others whenever possible. Eating with other people has numerous social and emotional benefits—particularly for children—and allows you to model healthy eating habits. Eating in front of the TV or computer often leads to mindless overeating.
  • Take time to chew your food and enjoy mealtimes. Chew your food slowly, savoring every bite. We tend to rush though our meals, forgetting to actually taste the flavors and feel the textures of our food. Reconnect with the joy of eating.
  • Listen to your body. Ask yourself if you are really hungry, or have a glass of water to see if you are thirsty instead of hungry. During a meal, stop eating before you feel full. It actually takes a few minutes for your brain to tell your body that it has had enough food, so eat slowly.
  • Eat breakfast, and eat smaller meals throughout the day. A healthy breakfast can jumpstart your metabolism, and eating small, healthy meals throughout the day (rather than the standard three large meals) keeps your energy up and your metabolism going.
  • Avoid eating at night. Try to eat dinner earlier in the day and then fast for 14-16 hours until breakfast the next morning. Early studies suggest that this simple dietary adjustment—eating only when you’re most active and giving your digestive system a long break each day—may help to regulate weight. After-dinner snacks tend to be high in fat and calories so are best avoided, anyway.

Healthy eating tip 4: Fill up on colorful fruits and vegetables

Fruits and vegetables are the foundation of a healthy diet. They are low in calories and nutrient dense, which means they are packed with vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and fiber. Unfortunately, most people are falling short of the recommended daily minimum of five servings of fruit and vegetables. In fact, most of us need to double the amount we currently eat.
Try to eat a rainbow of fruits and vegetables every day and with every meal—the brighter the better. Colorful, deeply colored fruits and vegetables contain higher concentrations of vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants—and different colors provide different benefits, so eat a variety. Aim for a minimum of five portions each day. Try adding berries to breakfast cereals, eating fruit as a healthy dessert, and snacking on vegetables such as carrots, snow peas, or cherry tomatoes instead of processed snack foods.

  • Greens. Branch out beyond bright and dark green lettuce. Kale, mustard greens, broccoli, and Chinese cabbage are just a few of the options—all packed with calcium, magnesium, iron, potassium, zinc, and vitamins A, C, E, and K.
  • Sweet vegetables. Naturally sweet vegetables—such as corn, carrots, beets, sweet potatoes, yams, onions, and squash—add healthy sweetness to your meals and reduce your cravings for other sweets.
  • Fruit. Fruit is a tasty, satisfying way to fill up on fiber, vitamins, and antioxidants. Berries are cancer-fighting, apples provide fiber, oranges and mangos offer vitamin C, and so on.
  • Healthy eating tip 5: Eat more healthy carbs and whole grains Choose healthy carbohydrates and fiber sources, especially whole grains, for long lasting energy. In addition to being delicious and satisfying, whole grains are rich in phytochemicals and antioxidants, which help to protect against coronary heart disease, certain cancers, and diabetes. Studies have shown people who eat more whole grains tend to have a healthier heart.

    A quick definition of healthy carbs and unhealthy carbs

    Healthy carbs (sometimes known as good carbs) include whole grains, beans, fruits, and vegetables. Healthy carbs are digested slowly, helping you feel full longer and keeping blood sugar and insulin levels stable.
    Unhealthy carbs (or bad carbs) are foods such as white flour, refined sugar, and white rice that have been stripped of all bran, fiber, and nutrients. Unhealthy carbs digest quickly and cause spikes in blood sugar levels and energy.

    Tips for eating more healthy carbs

    Whole Grain Stamp
  • Include a variety of whole grains in your healthy diet, including whole wheat, brown rice, millet, quinoa, and barley. Experiment with different grains to find your favorites.
  • Make sure you're really getting whole grains. Be aware that the words stone-ground, multi-grain, 100% wheat, or bran can be deceptive. Look for the words “whole grain” or “100% whole wheat” at the beginning of the ingredient list. In the U.S., Canada, and some other countries, check for the Whole Grain Stamps that distinguish between partial whole grain and 100% whole grain.
  • Try mixing grains as a first step to switching to whole grains. If whole grains like brown rice and whole wheat pasta don’t sound good at first, start by mixing what you normally use with the whole grains. You can gradually increase the whole grain to 100%.
Avoid: Refined foods such as breads, pastas, and breakfast cereals that are not whole grain.

How to loss your weight or to diet:


3 Day Military Diet Review

Are you thinking about trying the Military Diet? Maybe you’ve heard the quick weight loss promises and seen the popularity of the diet on Facebook and Pinterest. But is it really possible to lose up to 10 pounds per week or 30 pounds per month? You bet it is. Let’s do a quick review of the Military Diet.
People are skeptical about diets that promise rapid weight loss because they sound too good to be true. There’s no magic fairy dust behind the Military Diet, just stick with it and see for yourself.
The Military Diet is aimed at people who want to lose weight fast. Instant results motivate dieters, giving them a better chance of sticking with it and losing even more weight. It’s three days of your life on the Military Diet, what do you have to lose except unwanted pounds?


The Military Diet is the only diet review that includes vanilla ice cream
The Military Diet is great for over eaters and binge eaters. Because the portions on the Military Diet are so clear, you can’t overeat if you stick to the diet. And with meals that incorporate salt, sugar, and bread, there’s no feeling of deprivation. The Military Diet Review is the only diet review you’ll ever read that tells you it’s okay to eat Vanilla Haagen Dazs ice cream everyday.

Weight loss on the Military Diet is not just water weight
Dieting makes you lose fat, not water. When you kick start weight loss on the Military Diet, sometimes people claim it’s just water weight you lose. This is one of the biggest weight loss myths on the internet. So how did the myth originate? If your current diet is really unhealthy and you eat tons of salt and drink soda, you retain water naturally. When you start eating a healthier diet and drinking actual water, you flush some of that excess water out of your system. So naturally a change of diet can cause you to lose some water, but calorie deficit dieting makes you lose fat, not water.


You won’t gain weight back on the Military Diet
You can’t eat just grapefruit and saltines everyday for eternity, but the good news is that you don’t have to. Once you lose 10 pounds, you only gain it back because you eat more calories than you burn off. The average woman can eat 2000 calories a day without gaining weight. That’s a pretty generous calorie allowance. The average 14 inch Pizza hut pizza has 2400 hundred calories. Add a liter of Coke and you’re up to 2800 calories. So if you eat a pizza for dinner every night, you certainly will gain weight back. Two big Macs have 1100 calories, so if you eat a Big Mac for lunch and dinner, have a Denny’s Grand Slam for breakfast and throw in a few donuts, you will also gain back any weight you lost too. But if you’re eating 2000 calories or less per day, you cannot gain the weight back. That is a mathematical fact.



You won’t go into Starvation mode on the Military Diet
Another top internet myth is that dieting causes the body to go into Starvation mode. You’re not actually starving yourself on the Military Diet so you can’t go into starvation mode. To go into so-called starvation mode, you need to eat less than 1000 calories per day for a continual period of weeks or months. The Military Diet offers at least 1000 calories per day and it’s only for three days a week. Forms of intermittent fasting, like the Military Diet, actually increase your metabolic rate instead of lowering it. The body burns fat as fuel and your muscles turn into fat burning machines.

Yes, you might feel hungry sometimes on the Military Diet
 
Hunger is just a feeling that comes and goes, not a dangerous state of being
Portions on the Military Diet are probably smaller than what you’re used to, especially if you’re overweight. So yes, you will feel hungry sometimes. But you will lose weight. Remember, hunger is just a feeling we’ve all grown too accustomed to satisfying. The Military Diet is a great reboot for your body.


The Military Diet is inexpensive and easy to shop for
You probably have at least half of what you need for the Military Diet in your home already. There’s no potions to buy off the internet, so special secret ingredients. You can find everything you need for the Military Diet at your local grocery story.

10 Proven Ways to Lose 3 Pounds a Week Without Dieting


You don’t have to go on a crash diet in order to lose weight at a fast pace. There are plenty of healthy methods to losing weight, and employing any of the strategies below should yield you an impressive amount of weight loss.

There’s no need to do all ten at once, simply start with the one that resonates with you and implement those changes into your life until it seems effortless. It’s not about making the right choice, but making a choice and then making it right by sticking with it and not giving up if things don’t drastically change overnight. So pick one out and get started!

1. Eat 3 Meals Plus 2 Snacks
If you tend to skip breakfast, or have a tendency to overdo it at lunch or dinner, switching to 3 meals a day with two snacks will make all the difference. Time your snacks so that they see you through from breakfast to lunch, and from lunch to dinner. Resist the urge to eat after you’ve had dinner, as this can not only disrupt your sleep, but can be a problem for your digestive system as well.
You’ll find that many diet programs have you getting into the idea of eating multiple meals per day and smaller sizes at each, but really it’s just a matter of being strategic and making sure that you don’t run into a situation where you’re super hungry and haven’t planned out your next meal or snack and then grab anything just to appease your stomach.

2. Hydration Therapy (Drink More Water) 
It’s easy to get dehydrated, and many of us are and don’t even realize it. Simply drinking more water has been shown to be an effective means of weight loss for many, as it can curb your hunger, and many times the signal for thirst is confused for hunger, so keeping a bottle of water nearby can be very helpful.
It’s also going to help your body flush toxins and other waste from your system, keeping your liver and your kidneys properly engaged. Being well hydrated also means you’ll have improved digestion, as your digestive organs suffer as well from a state of dehydration.

3. Get a Fitness Tracker
Getting an objective look at how much or how little you move per day can be the wake up call needed to spur on more activity. Today’s fitness trackers can record all sorts of data, including how many steps you take, how many stairs you take, and even how well you’re sleeping at night. this information is graphed and presented to you in easy to understand charts so that you can easily determine how good of a day or week you’ve had. You get instant gratification from trying to outdo your best performance, and some of the trackers out there actually make it into a game, translating your data into how high up a mountain you would have climbed.

4. Fill Your Plate with Superfoods
Check out our list of superfoods and start adding more and more of them to your daily meals. They are all designed to give your body all of the vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients it needs, while keeping your fat and calories down so that you can feel energized and light, rather than sluggish and heavy. The upside to eating these types of foods is that they’re helping you live a longer, happier life, as well as the short term benefit of a slimmer waistline and increased energy. The neat trick of filling your plate with good foods is that they’re bumping bad foods out of the picture.

5. Start Playing a Sport
It’s hard to get the motivation to exercise and get active, and getting involved in a sport makes it more fun, and also adds some accountability if you play a team sport or find a buddy to play with. It can be most any sport really, but of course you’ll want to pick one that has you moving around a lot if you plan on losing 3 pounds a week until you reach your goal weight. When you have a race coming up, or a game coming up, it’s easier to motivate yourself to get practicing or get training, rather than just finding the individual motivation to go for a run or to go to the gym.

6. Cut Out Sugar
Cutting out sugar can be hard for many because it is so prevalent in our society. Many sugary candies are labeled fat free, which is technically true, except that the body turns that excess sugar into fat, so in essence sugar is making you fat, and is also wreaking havoc on your blood glucose levels, which can lead to complications if left unchecked. You don’t have to go completely off sugar forever, but going cold turkey is the best way to eradicate it from your life, lose weight effectively, and kick any cravings you have. Once you reach the weight you want you can reintroduce it into your diet in small amounts if you find that you even want it anymore.

7. Walk One Hour Every Day
If you change nothing else in your lifestyle and simply start walking for an hour per day, you’ll see your weight reach its natural healthy level in no time at all. This doesn’t have to be a brisk walk either, you can simply go at a relaxing pace, but be sure you go for an hour. Take your walk outdoors in the sunshine for best results, although a treadmill can be used on rainy days. This is a great time to listen to audiobooks, or your favorite tunes to feel good, get your body moving, all in a low impact exercise that’s the most natural in the world.

8. Start Doing Yoga
Yoga is a great exercise for those that want to increase the mobility in their life, achieve an inner state of joy, and also to work up a sweat. You are stretching out the body, increasing flexibility, and allowing it to perform better, all in one activity. You can start off with whichever poses you find that you’re able to do, and work your way up to more complicated ones. It’s something you can practice just about anywhere, and the combination of stretching, strength training, and cardio is sure to help you shed the pounds. The nice part about yoga is that it’s very natural, so you’re not forcing the body to do things it wasn’t meant to do.

9. Cut Off Junk Food and Fast Food
It’s really hard to get rid of the junk food that surrounds us each day, but breaking this habit can do wonders for your health and wellbeing and is sure to show dividends when you do your weekly weigh-in. Not only is there no nutritional benefit from eating junk food, hence the name, but it also makes you feel lethargic and makes you less likely to engage in any sort of exercise. By cooking yourself real food you are able to have quality control over what is going into your body, and you’ll be cutting out things like trans fat, partially hydrogenated oils, MSG, and other nasties that can really make a mess of your internal organs, and the way you feel overall.

10. Build Lean Muscle
Building lean muscle is a way to increase your metabolism so you’re burning more calories each day, which in essence will help you lose the pounds. Be aware that when you start shifting your body structure so that it has less fat, and more muscle, you might not see much of a difference on the scale. When losing pounds you want to make sure that you’re tracking the right pounds, as a pound of muscle gained in exchange for losing a pound of fat will make a huge difference to your health, while showing no change on the scale. Get a scale that also measures your body fat percentage so that you can get an accurate reading on the progress you’re making.